I can’t help but see considerable doom and gloom in the economy over the next few years. After watching the second debate between Obama and McCain this week, the realization struck me that no one—not even a miracle worker—will be able to fix the problems within the USA over the short-term. I also came to the realization, for me personally, of the waste of time it is to read the debate results, listen to the pundits, analyze the analysts, and engage in political discourse. I cannot change the outcome; I cannot influence others; but I can decide to not let it get the better of me.
A few years ago, I was lamenting to another professional about something completely out of my control, making excuses, expressing my dissatisfaction, and generally looking for a little understanding or agreement. To my amazement, she turned to me and said, “Get over it.” I think I took a few steps backward, raised my eyebrows, and said, “Wow; okay.”
For at least a week, I thought about her “Get over it” response, and wondered if I might ever possibly have the courage to say that to anyone else. The funny thing is, it worked! The more I thought about the conversation and what I was expecting to hear from her, the more surprised I was to realize how impactful three little words can be to stop the negative spinning and move me forward. And move me forward, it did.
So although it is unimaginable that I could ever say this to another, I can now say it to myself, and stop the spinning, worrying, and negative thoughts about possible election results. I cannot change the outcome; I cannot influence others; but I can decide to not let it get the better of me.
“Barb, get over it.”